Time out for parents… Not kids!

Finally find yourself without kids, but don’t know what to do with your time? I made this video to share with you the most important thing you could do in your “me time”.



Today, I had a couple of hours without kids.  And what used to happen is, when I didn’t have kids I would not know what to do with myself. I would waste that precious time that should be spent refreshing myself by figuring out what on earth I’m supposed to be doing.  

What I want to emphasize here is how important it is for parents to actually take time out.  When you get the opportunity to not have your children around is to actually really do something with that time…  really take that time to refresh yourself.

I know that you think, “The kids are gone, and it’s an ideal time to maybe get the house in order.  Maybe it’s a great time to catch up with the bills,” or that sort of thing. I disagree.

We can do those sorts of things all the time, anytime.  And in fact, they never go away.  But having an opportunity to actually physically take yourself out of your parenting environment and refresh yourself is actually vital to being a good parent.  It’s not being selfish.  In fact, it’s being selfish if we don’t do it.  So I really encourage the mums out there — particularly any dads that are the ones taking care of kids as well — to take time out.  It’s really important to take time out.

And secondly, do something with that time that is going to make you feel better.

I’ve come down here at the beach because I’ve had these two weeks that I have been absolutely so full on.  And I’ve relaxrealized, I’ve really not accomplished what I wanted to accomplish because I didn’t have a plan or a strategy.  So instead of sitting at home, I’ll come out here and get a bit of vitamin D in the sun because it’s rare to have such a beautiful, bright, blue day in the middle of winter.  I’ll sit here and reflect, and prioritize, and work out,  so that this coming week, in sha Allah, I can have a really productive week, but also be refreshed and be there for my kids — be able to be fully present for my kids. Instead of that, by the end of this last week I was starting to be grumpy mum, and not so pleasant to be around.  

Anyway, there’s lots to see down here.  Just being down here.  I’ve been down here five minutes and I haven’t even started on what I plan to do when I came down here.  And I already feel better.  Sunshine, the sound of kids having a great time, the sea, the blue sky.  It’s fantastic, it’s refreshing, and we need to do that.  We need to do it not just for ourselves, but for our kids as well.  

So that’s my message.  Time out for parents.  Go and get some time out.  Refresh yourselves so you can be there for your kids.

That’s all I wanted to share today.  I’m gonna get on with my reflections, and prioritization now.


Wassalamu Alaikum,